Say that the person died.<\/strong><\/h4>\nUse plain words. Phrases such as “we lost him”<\/em><\/strong> or “she has passed”<\/em><\/strong> leave families genuinely uncertain about what has happened, and some will keep waiting for a different answer. <\/div><\/div><\/div>
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Prepare them for the sentence before you say it. <\/strong><\/h4>\nA brief warning \u2014 that you have difficult news, that the resuscitation was not successful \u2014 gives the family a moment to brace. Then say it plainly and stop talking <\/div>
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Find a place to say it.<\/strong><\/h4>\nMove out of the doorway. Sit down if there is anywhere to sit. Ask whether there is someone who should be with them. <\/div>
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Use the name. <\/strong><\/h4>\nConfirm pronunciation and ask whether there is a preferred name. Avoid clinical terms such as “the patient” or “the body” in the family’s presence. <\/div>
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Answer honestly about what was done.<\/strong><\/h4>\nFamilies ask whether anything could have gone differently. Tell them what was tried, in language they can follow, and do not overstate. <\/div>
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Let family be present during resuscitation where the scene allows.<\/strong><\/h4>\nMany families want to be in the room, and being kept out can leave lasting doubt about whether everything was done. Assign someone to stay with them if you can. <\/div>
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Clean up.<\/strong><\/h4>\nRemove wrappers, packaging, needle caps, electrodes, and equipment debris. A family should not spend that night picking up the remains of their loved one’s last minutes. <\/div>
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Reposition and cover the person where and when you are permitted to.<\/strong><\/h4>\nIf the body must stay as it is, say why, and share this information before you are asked. <\/div>
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Explain who is coming and why.<\/strong><\/h4>\nFamilies often assume that police presence means they are suspected of something. Say plainly that a death outside a hospital requires law enforcement and the medical examiner, and that this is routine <\/div>
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Allow people to say goodbye.<\/strong><\/h4>\nGive the family an opportunity to be with the person in a way the scene permits. Remind them gently that they will have another opportunity at the funeral home. <\/div>
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Do not leave a family alone.<\/strong><\/h4>\nIf you can avoid it. Before you clear, help them reach a neighbor, a family member, a chaplain, or a faith leader. <\/div>
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Watch what is overheard.<\/strong><\/h4>\nRadio traffic, side conversations, and the tone crews use with each other carry farther than you think, and they tell a family whether this death is ordinary to you <\/div>
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Keep up to date on the latest legislative actions, news, resources, and events advancing bereavement care in America.<\/h4>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][nectar_icon_list animate=”true” color=”Extra-Color-2″ direction=”vertical” icon_size=”medium” icon_style=”border”][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917627-8″ header=”Treat the scene as an investigation from the start. ” tab_id=”1785376917627-6″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]Unexpected child deaths fall under the medical examiner’s jurisdiction. Leave tubes, lines, and devices in place unless directed otherwise, and note anything you moved, when, and why, so the investigator is not reconstructing it later.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917632-7″ header=”Ask early whether a parent may hold their child.” tab_id=”1785376917632-2″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]This is a decision for law enforcement and the medical examiner, not for the crew alone \u2014 so raise it while the family is still with you rather than waiting to be asked. If it is permitted, stay present and note who held the child and for how long, so nothing observed later is misattributed. If it is not, say why: “The medical examiner has to see your child exactly as they are, and I am not allowed to move them”<\/em><\/strong> is a reason. Silence, or a flat no, reads to a parent as refusal rather than constraint, and is remembered that way for years.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917634-10″ header=”If holding is permitted, supervise and document it.” tab_id=”1785376917634-9″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]Stay present, note who held the child and for how long, and pass that to the investigator so nothing observed later is misattributed.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917639-5″ header=”If it is not permitted, share why.” tab_id=”1785376917639-8″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]“The medical examiner has to see your child exactly as they are, and I am not allowed to move them”<\/strong><\/em> is a reason. Silence, or a flat no, reads to a parent as refusal rather than constraint, and it is remembered that way for years.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917646-9″ header=”Say the child’s name. ” tab_id=”1785376917646-3″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]Ask what the parents call the child, and use it.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785376917653-3″ header=”Expect parents to believe they caused the death.” tab_id=”1785376917653-3″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]This is common, regardless of circumstances.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][nectar_icon_list_item icon_type=”icon” text_full_html=”html” title=”List Item” id=”1785377481110-10″ header=”Tell the next professional what the parents have already been told.” tab_id=”1785377481111-4″ icon_fontawesome=”fa fa-arrow-circle-right”]On transfer or handoff, pass along what was said about the death, so the family does not receive a conflicting account from the next person in the room.[\/nectar_icon_list_item][\/nectar_icon_list][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row type=”full_width_background” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” equal_height=”yes” content_placement=”middle” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” bg_color=”#0B2E48″ scene_position=”center” top_padding=”70″ bottom_padding=”70″ text_color=”light” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” row_position_desktop=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” disable_element=”yes” overlay_strength=”0.95″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” shape_type=”” gradient_type=”default”][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”center” phone_text_alignment=”center” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”2\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][split_line_heading line_reveal_by_space_text_effect=”default” font_style=”h2″ content_alignment=”default” mobile_content_alignment=”inherit” animation_type=”line-reveal-by-space” link_target=”_self” text_content=”Take this with you” text_direction=”default”][\/split_line_heading][divider line_type=”Small Line” line_alignment=”default” line_thickness=”1″ divider_color=”extra-color-gradient-2″ animate=”yes” custom_height=”30″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]Prefer to read this on paper? This page is also available as a printable PDF you can print for a quiet moment, or share it with someone who is supporting you.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”center” phone_text_alignment=”center” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”right” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][nectar_cta btn_style=”arrow-animation” arrow_animation_alignment=”left” heading_tag=”h4″ link_type=”new_tab” button_color=”extra-color-2″ button_color_hover=”#247CC1″ text_color=”#ffffff” button_border_thickness=”0px” alignment=”left” alignment_tablet=”default” alignment_phone=”default” display=”inline” display_tablet=”inherit” display_phone=”inherit” link_text=”Download” url=”https:\/\/thealfam.com\/evermore\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/Death-Scene-Investigators_Fact-Sheet_FNL-ADA.pdf” padding_top=”20″ padding_right=”40″ padding_bottom=”20″ padding_left=”40″][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row type=”full_width_background” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” equal_height=”yes” content_placement=”middle” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” bg_color=”#FFFFFF” scene_position=”center” top_padding=”5%” bottom_padding=”5%” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” row_position_desktop=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” gradient_type=”default” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/2″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][vc_custom_heading text=”Caring for yourself” font_container=”tag:h2|text_align:left|color:%238AADAF” use_theme_fonts=”yes” css=””][divider line_type=”Small Line” line_alignment=”default” line_thickness=”8″ divider_color=”default” animate=”yes” custom_height=”100″ custom_line_width=”120″][vc_column_text css_animation=”bottom-to-top” css=”.vc_custom_1785377543646{padding-right: 10% !important;}” text_direction=”default”]Taking care of yourself is fundamental to your work and to your long-term health. The effects of sustained exposure to stress, death, and trauma are not only psychological \u2014 they are physical. Sleep disruption, immune dysfunction, cardiovascular strain, and cumulative emotional fatigue are occupational realities in roles like yours.<\/p>\nPractical steps matter. Getting enough sleep, drinking water, moving your body, and spending time with people you care about are not small things. Reaching out to a mental health professional is not a sign of weakness. These are acts of professional maintenance. Caring for yourself makes you better able to do your work.
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Reframe common questions<\/h3>\n
\u201cHow are you doing?\u201d<\/em> <\/strong>can be reframed as \u201cHow are you coping?\u201d<\/em><\/strong> \u2014 which acknowledges the weight of what the person is carrying. It may be more helpful to say \u201cI have been thinking of you\u201d<\/strong><\/em> or to make a specific offer rather than a general one.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#9F9F9F” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\nDo not ask how the person died<\/h3>\n
What matters is that they died, not how. Asking can force bereaved people to relive the most painful details of their experience.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#8AADAF” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” font_color=”#ffffff” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\n
Say the name<\/h3>\n
Using the name of the deceased acknowledges the importance of their life. Confirm pronunciation and ask whether there is a preferred name or nickname. Do not worry about reminding them \u2014 they are already thinking about it.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row type=”full_width_content” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” scene_position=”center” top_padding=”0″ bottom_padding=”0″ text_color=”light” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” row_position_desktop=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” background_color=”#171920″][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#8AADAF” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\n
All deaths are not equivalent<\/h3>\n
Resist any urge to share your own experience of death or to compare one loss to another. Every experience of loss is different. If you have experienced a death yourself, you may offer a private moment to share \u2014 but be sensitive to the impact on both of you.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#E76E51″ background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\n
Bereavement lasts a long time<\/h3>\n
Bereaved people will not be feeling better in a few weeks, or even in a year. Adjusting to a significant loss takes years. Their lives are permanently changed.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#0B2E48″ background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” font_color=”#ffffff” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/3″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\n
It is their story, not yours<\/h3>\n
Being a consistent, non-judgmental presence \u2014 without redirecting attention to yourself \u2014 is one of the most valuable things you can offer.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column_inner][\/vc_row_inner][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row type=”full_width_content” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” scene_position=”center” top_padding=”0″ bottom_padding=”0″ text_color=”light” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” row_position_desktop=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” background_color=”#171920″ gradient_type=”default” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”padding-4-percent” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color=”#247CC1″ background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” column_position=”default” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”flip-in” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” column_padding_type=”default” content_layout=”default” gradient_type=”default”][vc_row_inner column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” text_align=”left” row_position=”default” row_position_tablet=”inherit” row_position_phone=”inherit” overflow=”visible” pointer_events=”all”][vc_column_inner column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” column_padding_position=”all” flex_gap_desktop=”10px” column_element_direction_desktop=”default” column_element_spacing=”default” desktop_text_alignment=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_backdrop_filter=”none” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” column_link_target=”_self” overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-left” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” delay=”500″][vc_column_text css=”” text_direction=”default”]\n
Be mindful of the “How many children do you have?” question<\/h3>\n
After a perinatal or child death, this is one of the most difficult questions a bereaved parent will face. 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